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Adrianna Brooke 11/16/2000-11/16/2000
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7月12日

A Poem

 

Adrianna Brooke

(It’s f#cked up when you have to burry your child,

Its worse when you didn’t even get a chance to watch that child grow)

 

Oh my sweet Adrianna I dream of the day

that I am with you once again.

That I can hold you in my arms once again

And have your tiny feet in my hands once again.

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And wherever you are,

I know that you are looking down on me.

And even if some don’t believe me I know that

you are here with me.

And even if it’s a bit farfetched I know

that you hear me when I call your name.

 

Time passes by each day begging me to move on,

time passes by each day with happier memories, with prettier days

but inside I still hold you close

I only wish that I had more time to be with you.

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But I am patient

Because I know that day will come,

When? I still don’t know.

 

But don’t you worry sweet angel of mine.

Because fifty years can pass and I won’t forget you.

I laugh again and my eyes are no longer full of tears.

But you I will never forget!

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As long as I carry a memory you will always be remembered!

And you still own that piece of my heart,

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And even if I can’t hold you in my arms

I still have a strong grip on you!

And at night I still kiss you goodnight,

and protect your dreams like a lion protecting her small cubs!

 

Don’t you worry by sweet Adrianna that with me you will always be!!

 

© Gabriela Estevez 2006

This was written be a fellow spacer. She emailed it to me today.

Thank You So Much!

If u get a chance go visit here she is feeling down herself.

Thank You

Gabriela

 

 

2月12日

Precious Child

                      


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In my dreams, you are alive and well
Precious child, precious child
In my mind, I see you clear as a bell
Precious child, precious child

In my soul, there is a hole
That can never be filled
But in my heart, there is hope
'Cause you are with me still

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In my heart, you live on
Always there never gone
Precious child, you left too soon
Tho' it may be true that we're apart
You will live forever... in my heart

In my plans, I was the first to leave
Precious child, precious child
But in this world, I was left here to grieve
Precious child, my precious child

In my soul, there is a hole
That can never be filled
But in my heart there is hope
And you are with me still

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In my heart you live on
Always there never gone
Precious child you left too soon,
Tho' it may be true that we're apart
You will live forever... in my heart

God knows I want to hold you,
See you, touch you
And maybe there is a heaven
And someday I will again
Please know you are not forgotten until then

In my heart you live on
Always there never gone
Precious child you left too soon
Tho' it may be true that we're apart
You will live forever... in my heart

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Written by Karen Taylor-Good. In memory of her nephew.

My Story


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 Ok here goes nothing...
I found out i was pregnant with our 5th child around January of 2000. I had a great pregnancy just as with the last 4. No morning sickness no signs of anything wrong. On the 3rd of November we went and bought the last of everything we needed. The bassinet,bottles,clothes to bring it home in..etc.
 I say it becasue we did not want to know if it was a boy or a girl. I wanted a girl so bad since we already had 3 boys and only 1 girl. I only had a name picked for a girl. I just knew it had to be a girl..lol
 I went to the hospital on a Thursday becasue i thought my water was leaking. It was not. They sent me home and i had a Dr. appointment the next day. I did not go. I was scheduled another appointment the following Friday. I was to be induced since at that point i was overdue almost 2 weeks.
 I went into labor at about 4am on Thursday November 16th. With this being my 5th child i knew better than to just run to the hospital with just a little pain. Hell i felt like a pro by now...lol It started as usual with the small irregular pains which i could sleep through. I heard a knock on the door about 7am it was my husbands boss coming to get him for work. I had not even told im i was having pains thinking i would call him when i needed him. He went on to work. Around 7:45 i got the kids up and sent them off to school. Only 2 kiddos was going at that time. As i was leaving i felt the pains were getting stronger and i might need to call Kevin to come on home so i could go ahead and go. So i did and he was on his way back.
I called my Moms work and the job she was doing at the time was not in one place she was sent out in the field to work. They said they would go get her and send her on to the hospital. I was like no it will more than likely be awhile just let her know that i am going to the hospital and come when she gets off work.
 Next i called my Dad and he said well let me go get ur Grandmother and we will be on our way. I told him the same thing just wait it will be awhile i will call u when i get settled in. He went on to my Grandmothers and i was to call the there when i was settled in.
  Now Kevin was no help at all in the delivery of our oldest child and we do not let anyone babysit for us. So the plan was my Mom stayed til i delivered then Kevin would come and my Mom would stay with the kids.
Kevin gets home an i go to the hospital. I know by now what is normal they hook the belts up to ur tummy for the heart beat and contractions.
 So they start to hook up the heartbeat one and nothing.... I was getting very nervous she said dont worry the baby could be in a awkward place and might not be picking up. She said she would be right back. That was when i knew in my heart my baby was one but did not want to believe it.
 She came back in the room with about 5 other people in about 30 seconds. They had a ultrasound machine.
 The way they had the machine turned was so i could not see the monitor. She keep searching and searching and nothing was said. The look she gave me said it all. My baby was gone.....No words was spoken.
 I freaked and went into shock. To make a long story short i was given alot of drugs to knock me out. The next thing i knew i was laying in the bed and they was running the bed down the hallway. I knew it had to be something to do with me because i knew my precouis baby was already gone. Sure enough i was bleeding very bad and could have died if the did not get me in right then. I was knocked back out and the next thing i remember was waking up being thirsty and asking for something to drink. My  Mom told me i was not able to doctors order.  I remember my sister saying she is dying and all she wants is water and yall wont give it to her. So at that pint i started praying that i did not die for the sake of my other 4 kiddos. I was in and out from Thursday til Saturday. I remember very little. I do remember that they had pinched a nerve in my fight hand so it was a horrible pain and i could not ue it. I had a mild stroke.
 I got to hold my daughter 2 times but i can only remember one of the times. They had her rapped in a blanket and she had on a little diaper. I layed her in between my legs and made sure that i touched every inch of her little body. I am into babies feet to i rubbed her feet forever. I was ask if i wnated her baptisted and told then yes. I went back out of it and i do remember the very begining of the baptisim but that was a blur too.
I started making plans for a funeral on Saturday. It was just so pathetic. Your child is supossed to die before you not the other way around.
 By the time i had got out of the hospital my family had removed everything to do with a baby from my house.
In a way i wish they would not have. They only thing that was still there was the bassinet which i had put up just days before. They plan was to take it back to get the money we needed now with the funeral expenses. Which we later found out was all free including the gravesite. All we had to pay for was the headstone.
I want to go into more about the funeral and thing but i just can't right now sorry...i will finish this when i am able.
 Thanks to Dee for making this for me....I love it. She also made the one at the top of this entry too.....
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12月30日

Til we meet again

 

 
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At first glance, the newborn appears to be sleeping. He lies tummy-down on a white blanket, legs tucked under a bulky diaper, eyes shut and mouth a gape. A pair of teddy bears stand sentry over his small body.

But a closer look at the photograph reveals the horrible truth: The baby is dead, his skin discolored by imminent decay.

 And while some Web surfers find the images of dead babies disturbing, the parents say the websites help them cope with their devastating loss.

"Anyone who's had a new baby can show him off. We can't. This is the only way we can show the world that they existed."

 
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How to help your other children

 
 

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Talking to you other children can be hard believe me i know. Usually,it is best not to try and shelter the children from the death. No matter how young they are,they need to be told in a simple way that their brother or sister has died.
 Children who are very young may not know what death is. You can help by reminding them or pets that have died or talk to them about flowers withering and dying. You may explain to them about having no signs of life ,such as breathing,eating,hearing,etc.
Be careful not to confuse them by telling them their brother or sisiter is sleeping because they then might become fearful of not wanting to go to sleep. If you believe in Heaven share this belief with them.Do not tell them God took your baby. They might be afraid God might take them too,or they may become angry at God for taking the baby. They can not understand why God would do such a thing.
  Sometimes your other children will think that they or someone else caused the death,especially if they bumped you or did not wnat you to have another baby. Explain to them the simpliest reason for the babys death.
Try to allow other children time to share their feelings,ask questions and express their own grief. They need to know that they are still important to you.Share your grief with them as well,for they probabley since the sadness.
If you have a memorial service or funeral,allow them to participate in it. This might help your children better cope with the death of their brother or sister.
I got this info from a packet i recieved at the hospital.

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Try and Do


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When a baby dies before it was born or did not have much time to live,it is harder to store memories or collect treasures to remind you of hopes and dreams for your child.
Here are a few suggestions that might make it a little easier.
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Certificates....If your baby was miscarried or stillborn,the hospital will give you a birth certificate if desired.
Family Bible....If you have a family bible add your babys name.Or buy a new one and add your childs name and dates in it.
Baptisim....If babtisim is meaningful for you,you can ask for your child to be baptized. They can give you a written record of the baptizim.
Footprints....Ask the nurse about getting footprints and handprints.
Pictures....If your baby was more than 20 weeks,you may be able to have pics taken. Feel free to use your own camera if you have one.
Baby Blanket....If you would like to keep the blanket your baby was wrapped in ask them to give it to you.
Baby Bracelets....They will usually give you the bracelets if you ask.
Locks....If you baby had enough hair ask them to cut you a lock.
Try and have a memorial service if at all possible.

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Guestbook

                          


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Fly by Celine Dion

Fly, fly little wing
fly beyond imagining
The softest cloud, the whitest dove
Upon the wings of heaven's love
Past the planets and the stars
Leave this lonely world of ours
Escape the sorrow and the pain
And Fly again.

Fly, fly precious one
Your endless journey has begun
Take your gentle happinesss
Far too beautiful for this
Cross over to the other shore
There is peace forever more
But hold this memory bittersweet
Until we meet.

Fly , fly do not fear
Don't waste a breath, don't shed a tear
Your heart is pure, your soul is free
Be on your way don't wait for me
Above the universe you'll climb
On beyond the hands of time
The moon will rise, the sun will set
But I won't forget.

Fly, fly little wing
Fly where only angels sing
Fly away the time is right
Go now, find the light..

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Thanks for signing my daughters guestbook
 


 

Poems


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I'll lend you for a little time,
a child of mine, He said.
For you to love while he lives,
and mourn when he is dead.
It may be six or seven years,
or twenty-two or three.
But will you , till I call him back,
take care of him for me?
He'll bring his charms to gladden you,
and shall his stay be brief,
You'll have his lovely memories
as solace for your grief.
I cannot promise he will stay,
since all from earth return.
But there are lessons taught down there
I want this child to learn.
I've looked the wide world over
in my search for teachers true
And from the throngs that crowd life's lanes,
I have selected you.
Now will you give him all your love,
nor think the labor vain,
Nor hate me when I come to call,
to take him back again?
I fancied that I heard them say,
Dear Lord, Thy will be done.
For all the joy Thy child shall bring,
the risk of grief we'll run.
We'll shelter him with tenderness,
we'll love him while we may;
And for the happiness we've known,
will ever grateful stay.
But shall the angels call for him
much sooner than we planned,
We'll brave the bitter grief that comes,
and try to understand.

                              

                            

                                  I am a Mother

 

I've loved my child right from the start,
A feeling that's filled my entire heart.
I went through the labor and suffered the pain,
For many long hours with nothing to gain.

I've spent sleepless nights being awake,
Though it's been a while my arms they still ache.
I've sat and I've wondered of how he would grow,
The love of my family that he'd come to know.

The sound of his voice as he learns to talk,
Watching his steps as he tries to walk.
I have a child that I really love so,
I am his mother yet nobody knows.

I've spent all these months feeling him grow,
I've lived through it all and have nothing to show.
I don't get invited to chat with young mothers,
Because I don't have a baby like all of the others.

I've got some stretch marks that I'd like to hide,
but I don't have a pram with a baby inside.
The people I've known for so many years,
Avoid me now, which adds to my tears.

I don't know how long I'll be feeling like this,
But one thing I know, my baby I miss.
When Mother's day comes it will be very hard,
I won't have any flowers, not even a card.

And just because he's not here with me,
I still have a son I wish I could see.
But one thing I know and this is for sure,
I'll be his mother forevermore!

 

Don't Lean on Me
By Richard K. Olsen

Don’t lean on me,
I’m just a straw in the wind.
 I’m not support.
I cannot stand alone. 
 

Time heals they say,
But it also erodes,
Sand, wind, and water
Carve mystical shapes.
 

I am less now than I was,
when life was in the offing,
when joy filled my days
and dreams my nights. 
 

My future is past.
A lonely road to follow,
awaits me,
beyond the garden wall.  
 

She is still
and so am I.
 My heart is muted,
its beat a dirge.

 

Days from night,
no longer discerned.
Sweet and sour,
taste alike.

 

Don’t lean on me,
I cannot stand alone.
But lie here with me,
and wait the light.

 

 

To those who look away when I grow teary-eyed in the baby department,
look a little deeper. Surely you have some compassion in your heart.


To those who change the subject when I speak my sons' names,
change your way of thinking. It just might change your whole life.


To those who roll their eyes and say that we barely had them at all, how
could we miss them so much, in our hearts we have seen them live a thousand
times. We have seen their first steps, first day of school, their weddings,
and their children. We have had them forever in our minds.


To those who say we can have another, we did. I thank God for her everyday,
but even if I have twenty more babies, I will forever have two in the grave,
and that is two too many.


To those who say to get on with my life, I have. It is a different life, the
life of a grieving mother. One with a tremendous amount to be thankful for,
but also one with a lot to mourn the loss of!

 
Do not judge the bereaved mother. She comes in many forms.


She is breathing, but she is dying.
She may look young, but inside she has become ancient.
She smiles, but her heart sobs.
She walks, she talks, she cooks, she cleans, she works, she IS,
but she IS NOT, all at once.
She is here, but part of her is elsewhere for eternity.


Do not dismiss us: we have shaped more than just the future
generation.

We have released all the tiny angels who are watching over you.

 Open your eyes
to US, and you just might see THEM.


~~~ Author Unknown ~~

 

Stillborn

 

 

I carried you in hope,
the long nine months of my term,
remembered that close hour when we made you,
often felt you kick and move
as slowly you grew within me,
wondered what you would look like
when your wet head emerged,
girl or boy, and at what glad moment
I should hear your birth cry,
and I welcoming you
with all you needed of warmth and food;
we had a home waiting for you.
After my strong labourings,
sweat cooled on my limbs,
my small cries merging with the summer air,
you came. You did not cry.
You did not breathe.
We had not expected this;
it seems your birth had no meaning,
Or had you rejected us?
They will say that you did not live,
register you as stillborn.
but you lived for me all that time
in the dark chamber of my womb,
and when I think of you now,
perfect in your little death,
I know that for me you are born still;
I shall carry you with me forever,
my child, you were always mine,
you are mine now.
Death and life are the same mysteries.

Leonard Clark

 

I'm Everyplace

 

Mom & Dad don't mourn for me;

I'm still here, though you don't see.

I'm right by your side each night and day

and within your heart I long to stay.

My body is gone but I'm always near

I'm everything you feel, see or hear.

My spirit is free, but I'll never depart

as long as you keep me alive in your heart.

I'll never wander out of you sight,

I'm the brightest star on a summer night.

I'll never be beyond your reach,

I'm the warm moist sand when you're at the beach.

I'm the colorful leaves when fall comes around

and the pure white snow that blankets the ground.

I'm the beautiful flowers of whigh you're so fond.

The clear cool water in a quiet pond.

I'm the first bright blossom you'll see in the spring;

The first warm raindrop that April will bring.

I'm the first ray of light when the sun starts to shine,

and you'll see that the face in the moon is mine.

When you start thinking there's no one to love you,

you can talk to me through the Lord above you.

I''ll whisper my answer through the leaves on the trees,

and you'll feel my presence in the soft summer breeze.

I'm the hot salty tears that flow when you weep

and the beautiful dreams that come while you sleep.

I'm the smile you see on a baby's face.

Just look for me, I'm everyplace


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12月29日

Wish List

 

    Bereaved Parents Wish List

 I wish my child hadn't died.

I wish I had her back.

I wish you wouldn't be afraid to speak my child's name.

My child lived and was very important to me.

I need to hear that she was important to you also.

If I cry and get emotional when you talk about my child,

I wish you knew that it isn't because you have hurt me.

My child's death is the cause of my tears.

You have talked about my child and you have allowed me to share my grief.

I thank you for both. Being a bereaved parent is not contagious, so I wish you wouldn't shy away from me.

I need you now more than ever.

I need diversions, so I do want to hear about you, but I also want you to hear about me.

I might be sad and I might cry, but I wish you would let me talk about my child;

my favorite topic of the day.

I know that you think of and pray for me often. I also know that my child's death pains you too.

I wish you would let me know these things through a phone call, a card or note, or a real big hug.

I wish you wouldn't expect my grief to be over.

These first years are traumatic for me, but I wish you could understand that my grief will never be over.

I will suffer the death of my child until the day I die. I am working hard in my recovery, but I wish you could understand that I will never fully recover. I will always miss my child and I will always grieve that she is dead.

I wish you wouldn't expect me "not to think about it" or "be happy". Neither will happen for a very long time, so don't frustrate yourself.

I don't want to have a "Pity party", but I do wish you would let me grieve.

I must hurt before I can heal.

I wish you understood how my life has shattered.

I know it is miserable for you to be around me when I'm feeling miserable.

Please be as patient with me as I am with you.

When I say, "I'm doing okay", I wish you could understand that I don't "feel" okay and that I struggle daily.

I wish you knew that all of the grief reactions I'm having are very normal.

Depression, anger, hopelessness and overwhelming sadness are all to be expected.

So please excuse me when I'm quiet and withdrawn or irritable and cranky.

Your advice to "take it one day at a time" is excellent advice. However, a day is too much and too fast for me right now.

I wish you could understand that I'm doing good to handle an hour at a time.

Please excuse me if I seem rude, certainly not my intent. Sometimes the world around me goes too fast and I need to get off. When I walk away,

I wish you would let me find a quiet place to spend time alone. I wish you understood that grief changes people.

When my child died, a big part of me died with her.

I am not the same person I was before my child died and I will never be that person again.

I wish very much that you could understand~ understand my loss and my But i pray daily that you will never understand --Poem from Compassionate Friends.



          

 
 
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